How to Deal with a Child with Anger Issues
Anger is one of the most common and normal emotions of the human being. It is the way to express the things when it is right or fair. Though getting angry is common, but it becomes a problem when your child’s angriness getting out of control.
When your child feels that what is happening with him/her is not right or fair, they become angry. The Anger relates to a child unfairly treated, falsely accused, feeling insecure, or misunderstood. So, there is no unique reason for getting angry. But, we know some obvious reasons for which a child gets angry. A child becomes angry when he/she
- See other members are being angry with each other.
- Realize any problem with friendship
- Feel fearful or very stressed about something
- Being bullied by others
- Going through ‘Puberty’ or hormone changes.
Below are some of the useful tips for you to deal with a child with anger issues.
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Try to stay calm in odd situations.
The emotion changes like the climate around us. Children’s emotion is like barometers which frequently changes situations. If you are relaxed, your child will be so. If you are stressed, she will be too.
Practice yourself to stay calm in odd situations. Find out some relaxing time for yourself. If possible try to meet with other parents and discuss with them about how to handle an angry child. Remember, the more you can manage to handle your angry filling, the more your child will learn how to deal with anger. If you feel wound up, stop there, keep yourself calm, or remove yourself from that odd situation.
Practice increasing emotional awareness
If you want to avoid angry explosions, you should encourage your children to share their difficult feelings. Sharing the emotional feelings will decrease the possibility of emotional crashes between the parents and children.
Encourage to express their emotion. It will help your child to be aware of their emotional feelings. In order to improve your Childs emotional literacy; you can start by increasing the discussion about their anger and other emotional feelings. Refer your own or some famous people’s feelings.
Teach your child how to limit their aggressive feelings.
Although anger is ok, you should learn your child that aggressive behavior is not ok.
If you want to limit aggressive behaviors of your children, you should be calm and try to get down to their level. Use firm tone to let them know that you are not pleased with their aggressive behaviors. Clear them, and tell them what he/she has done is wrong. Don’t shout, control yourself first. If your children hear your advice and stop aggressive behaviors, praise them a lot. On the other hand, if he/she continues behaving aggressively, warn them, and tell them about its consequence, such as withdrawing privileges or punishment step. If nothing works fine for a long time, meet a professional to help you in underlying issues.
Accept angry feelings and redirect angry toward appropriate outlets
If you want to redirect angry actions of your child, you should accept their angry feelings, and then redirect them to the appropriate outlets. Let them know about the original source of anger before being frustrated.
Accepting child’s angry feelings and redirecting them to an appropriate outlet is the secret of dealing a child with anger issues. If you child realize that their feelings are accepted, they will feel that their decision has been understood. This will encourage them to express their feelings, which will avoid angry explosions.
Some tips to tell your children
- If your child is a bit older, you should suggest him/her to write down the reasons for their anger. Advice them to keep a note about why he/she is angry, what reasons most, what influence more to get angry.
- Tell them to stop doing any work, when they feel angry. Instead, tell them to take a deep breath for few times until they feel relaxed.
- Buy them two squishy balls, and demonstrate them to squish the balls when they feel angry.
- When they feel angry, tell them to put on music, and if they won’t tell them to do some angry dance.
Dealing with a child with anger issues is a crucial matter for every parent. It is not a good sign. If you cannot treat or deal with their anger issue appropriately, your children may go to the wrong paths of their life. As a conscious parent, you should deal this matter carefully.